Money Sex and Health

For the average person money, sex, and health are the three main challenges in life. At some point all of us face each of them. We all have issues surrounding making a living, finding and maintaining intimate relationships, and taking care of of our bodies. The challenges are not about overcoming problems associated with these issues but about developing a perspective that enables us to deal with them without becoming overwhelmed, obsessed, or incapable of action.

These three issues are supercharged emotionally. What this means is that not only are we constantly struggling with them but we develop strong viewpoints about how to deal with them or avoid dealing with them. We begin to believe that our viewpoints are the best ones and that they apply to everyone. We judge those who disagree with us or act in ways that are contrary to what we believe are correct. This causes disagreements, stresses, and adds to the pressures that coping with these issues already generates.

Compounding the problem is that we are constantly being lectured, coached, reminded, preached to, and in general bombarded from a multitude of sources about what is the best way to handle each of these areas. Here are some of the titles of articles that I noticed just today:

DO'S AND DONT'S OF SNOOPING ON YOUR BOYFRIEND

DO YOU HAVE A SPENDING PROBLEM?

EXPERTS PREDICT SWINE FLU RETURNS IN THE FALL

THE OBESITY PARADOX

2009 GRADS COULD FACE LOW PAY FOR A DECADE

LITTLE INCOME, LOTS OF EQUITY AND THE PROS AND CONS OF HELOC (whatever that is

HAPPINESS ON YOUR OWN TERMS CAN HAPPEN

10 MISTAKES THAT ADD 10 YEARS

EVEN GROWN UPS NEED SHOTS (uh oh)

FAST TRACK TO FLEX APPEAL

KEEPING UP WITH THE WANGS AND PATELS

4 WAYS RETIREES CAN BATTLE INFLATION

10 WAYS TO END YOUR MARRIAGE (slip out the back jack,)

THATS SO 2005-WHAT WERE WE THINKING?

6 REASONS NOT TO SAVE FOR COLLEGE

START TODAY SAVING FOR COLLEGE

START ENJOYING YOUR SEX LIFE

WHY WAITING IS BETTER

HOW TO ESCAPE THE RAT RACE (i might read that)

A BUDGET CURE, MARIJUANA TAXES? (might read that also)

MEMORIAL DAY DEALS THAT YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO MISS (not interested)

HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR TATOO

HOW DO I KNOW IF HE LIKES ME?

WHY DOES EVERYBODY TALK ABOUT LOVE?

THIRTEEN AND STRETCH MARKS

IS IT POSSIBLE TO STUNT YOUR GROWTH?



I'm sure you get the picture. If you believe this stuff it can get very confusing. Ira's 1st law of media opinions. For every point of view there is an opposite and equal point of view. What is the answer to this mess of conflicting advice and internal programming? In my opinion its all about freeing yourself from your programming by observing your thoughts and actions without judgement and then committing yourself to learning what do you want. What do you really want? We hardly ever ask ourselves this important question.
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